Hosts: Alex Urbina and Wendy Amara
Life Leadership with Alex Urbina – September 30, 2013
On today’s show, Alex and Wendy sit down and talk about enabling in life and in parenting. What is enabling and are you aware that you might be enabling other and even your children.
When I was younger I grew up in a household were enabling was present and I told myself that I would not have my kids grow up the same way, Alex said.
But we must define what enabling is.
Enabling means you are shifting things around for someone so it makes it easier for them to do something that isn’t beneficial for them, Wendy said.
I looked up on the internet about what enabling is and it gave me two definitions, one positive and negative.
We are going to talk about the negative, Alex said.
Enabling can be small things like cleaning your room, having good hygiene, doing your homework do have consequences.
When your child comes up to you and says I didn’t do my homework and you give them a pass rather than going to school and owning up to them dropping the ball they will never learn.
There are different levels of enabling. The small issues grow into bigger as life progresses.
How to support parents to enable their children?
I think it is easier to stop wherever you are at and stop teaching your child to grow bad habits, Wendy said.
When we are parents we want the best foor our kids, Alex said. It was hard but I had to force myself not to make it easier for them, but be aware and catch myself from saying yes and say no. Even if you can help, be supportive but say no.
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