Santa Clarita Life Coach Alex Urbina gives a preview on how to master relationships and what to expect in his recurring relationship seminars.

“(The seminar isn’t) about being in a relationship, but rather about you learning how to be in a relationship and how to master it,” he said.

Many people focus on their relationships with others, when in fact, the solution to improving your relationships with others starts with yourself, according to Urbina.

Santa Clarita Life Coach Alex Urbina

“They are in a relationship first with themselves,” he continues, adding that we are in a relationship with our pain, fears and the world — and on so many different levels.

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Urbina regularly puts on a two-day transformational workshop that is designed for people that want to learn about how to master relationships, starting with themselves.

Some of the deeper question that Urbina’s relationship courses touch on include: “What is a relationship, what’s the meaning of it, what’s the value of it, and more importantly how can I master my results in relationships?”

“You are at different levels in your relationships, and it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been in those relationships and have been practicing your ability to relate in (those) relationships,” he said, adding that “the trick is (asking), ‘Who am I being in my relationship that I can create the kind of results that my heart yearns for?’”

Urbina suggests that you steer away from allowing yourself to get in the mindset of being what he called “the victim” in relationships, explaining his belief that you cannot grow personally with this mentality and that it will stunt your relationship from advancing to the next level.

Noting that his relationship seminar is applicable to everyone, Urbina ensures that the seminar isn’t just about couples — there will be people that are single, divorced, or in relationships in attendance.

Urbina said he applauds those who attend the workshops, proclaiming that, “Not enough people are courageous enough to look at themselves.”

Santa Clarita life coach Alex Urbina is one of the leading experts on teen, parent and family relationships. Specializing in personal transformation, Urbina has 20 years of experience as a life coach in Santa Clarita. His Life Leadership Training programs are being implemented in schools, youth organizations and transformational centers across the country, helping empower people to realize their full potential. “My Conscious Dad”, hosted by Urbina and his daughter, Jazmine Urbina, helps listeners consider new possibilities they couldn’t see before. The show airs on Fridays at 1 p.m. on KHTS AM-1220.