My Conscious Dad hosts Jazmine and Alex Urbina sat down in the AM-1220 KHTS studio to talk about what it means to be a proactive person in your own life.

Alex Urbina compared a scenario about a jukebox with actively making choices in life.

“If you were a jukebox, and I press the button, and I was pressing the button with intention, then I would be causing something,”Alex Urbina said. “If you were the jukebox and your button was being pressed and you went spinning around like a record, you would be the effect.”

People who just let things happen to them come to life from a victim’s paradigm, and feel powerless, Alex Urbina said.  

“From that victim perspective, it’s like ‘why is this happening to me. why are you doing this to me. why don’t you do this.’ And you’re  operating (like) you can’t cause a change, you can’t be any different,” he said.

His daughter, Jasmine Urbina, called on a book titled “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens” to clarity what being proactive meant.

“There are two types of people in this world, the proactive and the reactive,”Jazmine Urbina said.  “Those who take responsibility for their life, and those who blame. Those who make it happen and those who get happened to.”

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Alex Urbina then explained that learning to take control of what happens in your life can lead to healthier relationships.

“Not everybody is going to like you. so what,” Alex Urbina said. “You’re figuring out who you are and discovering who you are. We make mistakes, and deal with (the consequences).”

A large part of the problem is pushing the blame off of yourself and on to other people, said Jazmine Urbina.

“(If) your response (to criticism) is ‘Well, that’s just who I am…’ That’s not a powerful response. It’s like you’re trying to get rid of the responsibility,” she said.  

Parents have a natural way to take responsibility and learn to be proactive, Alex Urbina said.  

“I think any conscious parent on that journey starts to realize that the power in raising your kids isn’t in asking question. When your kids are young, it’s good enough to be wiser than them but you’re doing it from a controlling parent (standpoint). But when they start to realize they have their own voice and can make their own decisions,” Alex Urbina said, “the controlling parent style doesn’t work anymore. What it calls for is parents to reinvent themselves.”

Even talking with your kids is a good way to practice proactivity, in mediating arguments and fights, Jazmine Urbina said.

“(A fight) gives you an opportunity to step in and say ‘Is she making you mad or are you letting her make you mad.’ You get to go in and ask questions and get them thinking,” she said.  

These questions are also applicable to a parent’s personal life away from their children.

Her father’s final comment was that being proactive allows greater peace of mind.

“You can let people press your buttons all day long,” Alex Urbina said, “and it has no effect.when people try to press your buttons, you just smile.”

About Alex Urbina

Alex Urbina is one of the leading experts on Teen, Parent and Family Relationships. His vast experience in human potential and personal development has made him one of the premier Family Life Coaches in Personal Transformation and an international trainer.

Alex’s experiential Life Leadership Trainings are being implemented in various schools, youth organizations and Transformational Centers in the country, helping empower people to discover their personal power and realize their full potential.

Alex is a resident of the Santa Clarita Valley and has a weekly radio show called “Life Coaching” on yourHometown Station KHTS AM-1220 every Friday at 1 p.m., to continue to educate yourself on teen and family relationships; by being the undisputed self-leader in your own life.

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